What is a Soulmate?

Nearly everyone has heard of the term soulmate, but not everyone believes in the concept. 

A soulmate is defined as a person with whom one has a strong affinity, based on mutual interests and understanding. Soulmates are also considered to be our perfect match in every way. many people believe that they have a soulmate out there waiting for them.

So, what exactly is a soulmate? 

According to Wikipedia, a soulmate is somebody with whom one has a feeling of deep and natural affinity, love, intimacy, sexuality, spirituality, and/or compatibility. 

A related concept is that of the twin flame or twin soul - which is thought to be the ultimate soulmate, the only other half of one's soul, for which all souls are driven to find and join.

However, not everyone who uses these terms intends them to carry such mystical connotations. I believe it is possible to have such feelings about someone. 

I think many marriages encounter the aforementioned characteristics as well, and I believe in compatibility. The idea that there is just one individual among millions who possesses the qualities of the "twin soul" merely sounds improbable. I'm not suggesting you shouldn't think about soul mates. You may continue looking for the ideal person because you think there is someone out there who is your soulmate. Keep doing what you're doing if that's what you believe.

Please answer the following questions if you are reading this: Is your soul mate a romantic partner or merely a friend? How can you be certain that this person is your soul mate? Is it something you realize with time, or do you know this person is your soulmate from the very beginning?

I disagree with the concept of a soulmate. I think that you can be more compatible with one person than another, but there is no such thing as a soulmate. To me, a soulmate is someone who you are with because you want to be, not because you have to be. A soulmate is someone who brings out the best in you, someone who challenges you to be a better person.

What you make of your marriage or union is up to you. You make yourself compatible if you both want it to work and are on the same page about wanting it to work. It will not work if you do not want it to. The key point is that both of you (not just one) must be willing to compromise on what you want from your relationship.

What I see is that two people marry expecting one thing and then discover that after living with that person, it turns out to be something else. That is when they decide to leave. No one is perfect, and no relationship is perfect, but if you put effort into making it the best it can be, it will be exactly what you want it to be, soulmate or no soulmate.