Five Essential Online Dating Advice for Men

Tip 1: Take the Time to Read Her Profile 

While some online dating advice sites may recommend the shotgun approach, in which guys contact as many female members of their dating site as possible, this may not always be the best approach. Men should take the time to read a woman's profile and then indicate this to her in an initial contact message, rather than contacting as many female members as possible with short, terse messages. Simply reading her profile and commenting on specifics in her profile will show a woman that a man is interested in what she has to say and will set him apart from the countless other guys who do not.

Tip 2: The Best Policy is Honesty

Although it may seem natural or tempting to stretch the truth a little when communicating online - after all, you don't really know the person you're contacting and they don't know you - this is a bad move for men (and women for that matter). Beginning a potential relationship with a lie or establishing a relationship with deception may come back to haunt a person later. Nobody enjoys being duped, and this includes both men and women who use online dating sites. Before meeting someone in person, all anyone has is their reputation and integrity. Don't jeopardize a potentially serious relationship by being dishonest. Women will see right through this.

Tip 3 - Be Consistent Rather Than Aggressive

Finding a woman online who shares many of your interests and has many desirable characteristics is very exciting. So express your interest in her and be specific about what you like about her (see online dating tip #1), but don't be too aggressive. Create a brief, thoughtful message informing her that you have read her profile, then sit back and wait. There could be several reasons why a woman does not respond right away. She could, for example, be on vacation.

The last thing a woman wants to do is contact the guy who sent her fifty emails while she was on vacation and unable to access the online dating site. A man who sends multiple messages without giving her enough time to respond will be perceived as a stalker rather than a potential suitor by a woman. The best strategy is to send a thoughtful initial email and then wait at least one week for her to respond. After that, one follow-up message may be acceptable, but any further attempts to contact a woman on an online dating site will have a negative impact. If she hasn't responded by this point, simply move on.

Tip 4: Keep the Initial Contact Email Brief.

Men should keep the first email or message they send to a woman brief. Say just enough to let the woman know you read her profile and provided some information about yourself and why you think you might be a good match and then leave it at that. The longer your message to a female member of your dating site, the more 'psycho' you appear to be. So give her just enough information and perhaps end with a question to make it as easy for her to respond as possible.

Tip 5: Never Request Personal Information

Dating safety is important for everyone, but women who use online dating sites may feel especially vulnerable, especially if it is their first time using the internet personnel. While you may be curious about how close the object of your desire lives to you or want her phone number, wait until later in your online relationship to make such personal inquiries. If she is interested in you and you have been communicating via emails or instant messaging for some time, this type of information will come naturally.

Allow her to suggest a phone call before you do, or allow her to take the initiative and suggest a meeting in person. Allowing the woman to take the initiative will make her feel more empowered and in control. So, don't ask for personal information or details, let the woman take the initiative when it comes to talking or meeting offline, and make her feel as comfortable as possible when you do meet, such as by suggesting a public place. All of these things can serve to reinforce the fact that you are a good person with good intentions.

Conclusion

While there are many more online dating tips for men who use internet personal sites, the five tips listed above are critical for men to ensure the best chance of success through online dating. So, if you're a guy, take the time to read her profile and comment on specifics from her profile, be honest, don't be overly aggressive, keep your first contact message short, and make any women you contact through an online dating site feel as comfortable as possible by not being pushy or asking for personal information.

What you may perceive as an innocent question may be perceived by her as a violation of her privacy. So, try to follow the five essential online dating tips for men listed above, and don't be surprised if you have more success online dating than ever before.